Answering Jacob's Tough Question
Feb 05, 2015My Dearest Sisters in Christ,
I wanted to share a tender moment with you, one that happened when my precious son, Jacob, asked me a difficult question. He is a bright and loving 12-year-old, but he carries the unique challenge of high-functioning autism.
As I tucked Jacob into bed last night, his innocent heart brought forth a poignant query: "Mom, do you think I will ever get married?" The weight of his question seemed to hang in the air, leaving my heart heavy with emotion.
As a mother, my first instinct was to hold him close and assure him of his worth. I told him that he is an exceptional young man, brimming with qualities that make him one of a kind. I emphasized how deeply I love him and expressed my hope that someday a wonderful young lady will see the remarkable person he is and love him for his strengths.
Jacob's eyes glistened with tears as we talked, and I held him close, reassuring him of the beautiful future that lies ahead. I pray earnestly for a day when someone will recognize and cherish the incredible soul he is.
Now, some may ask, is it harder to raise a child with high-functioning autism or low-functioning? As we stand on the cusp of Jacob's teenage years, I can attest that each path has its own unique challenges and blessings. High-functioning children, like Jacob, often desire to partake in what they perceive as "normal" activities. However, their social interactions can be more complex.
My older son, Nathan, who is 16 and also on the autism spectrum, finds his happiness in the simple consistency of his life. He may never voice questions about marriage, and his world remains beautifully uncluttered.
I want to offer my heartfelt prayers and blessings to all the parents out there who, like me, navigate the intricate journey of raising children with unique qualities. I celebrate those who teach their children to be friends to all and encourage kindness and acceptance.
So, to my dear sisters in Christ, as we face our own unique challenges, let us remember to embrace the wonderful qualities of our children and guide them with love and faith. For God has a beautiful plan for each of them, and we walk this path together, with God's grace as our guide.
With love and faith,
Tamara K. Anderson
