Connections in Understanding: Parenting Special Needs Kiddos
Jan 20, 2015
Dear Warrior of Light,
I hope this letter finds you well. I recently had a profound experience at the Clark Planetarium in Salt Lake City that I wanted to share with you. It reminded me of the beauty of human connection and the importance of understanding and compassion.
As I stood in front of the mesmerizing two-story tall display titled "Newton's Daydream," I found myself captivated by the intricate dance of balls moving through metal chutes. My son, Nathan, who is on the autism spectrum, was equally enthralled. We watched for what felt like an eternity, while most kids quickly moved on to other exhibits.
During my observance, I noticed another mother who seemed to be in a similar situation. Her son, too, was absorbed by the display and exhibiting repetitive behaviors known as "stimming," which are common among children with autism. I approached her and casually remarked, "It looks like you and I are going to be here for a while."
This simple comment sparked a meaningful conversation. I discovered that her son, like mine, had autism. Over the next 15 minutes, while our children enjoyed the visual stimulation of the exhibit, we discussed various aspects of our parenting journeys. From potty training to sleep routines, schools, and the services our children received – we shared our experiences.
What struck me most was the instant connection we felt. This newfound friend expressed how comforting it was to meet someone who didn't need explanations about her son's behavior, someone who truly "got it." And I did get it.
This encounter reinforced the idea that, as parents of children with unique challenges, there are others out there who "get it." We may feel alone in our unique world, but there is a community of understanding and support waiting to embrace us. Finding local support groups or creating one if they don't exist can be incredibly rewarding. Sharing stories, laughter, and even tears with fellow moms who understand the challenges can lighten the load.
For those who may not be directly impacted by autism but know parents who are, a little kindness and empathy can go a long way. Whether you see us spending 30 minutes in front of an exhibit or dealing with a tantrum in the grocery store, remember that we all face challenges. Some are just more apparent than others.
Let's continue to be warriors of light, spreading understanding, compassion, and kindness. Together, we can make this world a brighter place for all our children.
With love and support,
Tamara K. Anderson
