Shining Light in Darkness: Suicide Prevention and Support
Sep 19, 2023
Dear Sisters in Christ,
I pray that this letter finds you in good health and filled with the grace of our Lord. Today, I want to share a story that's close to my heart, a story of hope and healing in the face of one of life's darkest challenges.
As women warriors of light, we are called to shine God's love and compassion into the darkest corners of the world, even when those corners may be the hearts of those closest to us. Suicide, a topic often shrouded in silence, affects people from all walks of life. And it's time we break free from the chains of stigma and fear to bring this crucial conversation into the light.
The Word of God, in Psalm 34:18 (KJV), assures us that, "The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart, and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit." My dear sisters, it's our calling to be God's hands and feet in this world, to bring His nearness to those who are in pain. By doing so, we can become instruments of His saving grace.
Start a Conversation
This month, I am driven to educate you on the topic of suicide prevention, so you can go out and have those life-saving conversations with your loved ones. Remember, we approach this topic with hope, for with God, all things are possible. Suicide often stems from deep pain and the feeling of hopelessness. But through faith, we know that pain is not permanent, and a better future awaits.
Our Lord has granted us the gift of resilience. We can adapt, grow, and heal, and each new day presents an opportunity for positive change. Keep this truth close to your heart, and it will not only help you but also those you love.
Recognizing the Signs
Recognizing the signs of someone in pain is the first step in being a beacon of hope. Pay attention to behavioral changes, verbal clues, mood swings, giving away possessions, substance abuse, discussions about death, and self-harm. These may be cries for help that we must not ignore.
- Changes in Behavior: Watch for unusual shifts in behavior, such as withdrawal from friends and family, increased isolation, or a sudden loss of interest in activities that they once loved.
- Verbal Clues: Pay attention to the words people say. Things like "I can't go on," "I wish I were dead," or "I'm a burden to others" can be an indication of suicidal thoughts.
- Mood Swings: Drastic changes in mood, especially from extreme sadness to sudden calmness, can be a red flag.
- Giving Away Possessions: If someone begins to give away belongings, it may be a sign that they have suicidal intentions.
- Substance Abuse: Increased alcohol or drug use can indicate a person’s struggle with poor mental health and suicidal thoughts.
- Talking About Death: Frequent discussions about death, dying, or wanting to escape can be a huge warning sign of someone contemplating suicide.
- Self-Harm: Any form of self-harm, like cutting or burning, should be taken seriously.
Offering Support
When someone confides in you, remember to be an active listener, just as our Heavenly Father listens to our prayers. Asking directly about suicidal thoughts is a way to offer a lifeline without planting a harmful seed. Stay calm, reassure them of your love, and guide them toward professional help, for our Lord's mercy is endless, and He has placed experts on this path of healing.
- Listen Attentively: If someone confides in you, be an active listener. Let them express their feelings without judgment or interruption.
- Ask Directly: If you suspect someone is suicidal, ask them directly if they are thinking about suicide. Contrary to common misconceptions, asking won't put the idea in their head; instead, it can offer a chance for them to open up.
- Stay Calm and Reassure: Stay calm and let them know you care. Help them know that they are not alone and that help is available.
- Encourage Professional Help: Suggest that they speak with a mental health professional, therapist, or counselor. Offer to help find resources or accompany them to appointments.
- Remove Immediate Hazards: If you believe someone is in immediate danger, help them remove any potential means of self-harm, such as pills, sharp objects, or firearms.
- Involve Trusted Individuals: Reach out to close friends or family members who can also provide support. Building a strong support network is crucial.
Though we can't prevent every tragedy, we can make a difference by recognizing the signs and offering our unwavering support. The more we know, the more we can help, and the more we show Christ's love in action.
If you or someone you love is struggling with suicidal thoughts, remember that there is always help and hope for a brighter future. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is available 24/7 at 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255). In Utah, you can dial 988 for immediate assistance and find valuable resources on LiveOn Utah.
Let us be fearless in our conversations about suicide and become the warriors of light that God has called us to be. By recognizing the signs and knowing what to do, we may just be instruments of His saving grace.
With love and prayers,
Wendi Christensen, LCSW
